• Christian Counseling: Want to Change Your Life? Walk in Faith

    Most of my Christian Counseling clients would easily admit they feel blessed. Their daily needs are met and they have loving people in their life. Then why do so many of us feel as if we’re just going through the motions rather than really living?

    Going through the motions is just survival! Our soul longs for more than – get up, get the kids to school, go to work, make dinner, help with homework, run errands, fall into bed exhausted and do it all over again. Unfortunately, this is the pattern that’s really easy to fall into if we’re not being intentional about our time.


    Feeling an inner discomfort; a malaise that something’s just not right is a warning. 

    If we continue to ignore it, it becomes more and more painful. At that pain point, we have 1 of 2 choices to make: continue ignoring it and begin to die little by little or break the cycle and begin to fully live! Now, it sounds like that would be an easy decision, right? WRONG!

    What are the options? Sadly, a lot of people choose to just wither up and let pieces of themselves die. It’s MUCH harder to be courageous and draw a line in the sand.

    This is one of many reasons why I love and admire the warrior women who choose to engage in Christian Counseling with us. They are stepping up and saying “Enough! I don’t want this anymore and I definitely don’t want this for my children!”

    Each of us finds our way to this crossroads of: stay the same and shrink OR make a change and grow, in different ways. Today I want to focus on the next step once you’ve decided you’re done with the old and ready for the new.

    What’s the cost?

    While there is great freedom on the other side of that decision, the cost is quite frequently terror. We like to know everything is going to turn out ok.

    We want to know – without a doubt – that we’re going to be safe.

    When you choose to take a stand and do something different, you have no guarantees. It can feel as if there is no road map and you’re on your own swimming upstream. This is where the power of faith is so important.

    Faith is: being sure of what we hope for & certain of what we do not see.

    • Terror tries to tell us we’re being irrational because we don’t know the outcome. Faith tells us to listen to the inner promptings we’ve been feeling for months (or for many – years) and to trust.
    • Terror tries to tell us we’re making a mistake and things will get worse. Faith calls us toward a different ending where peace abounds.
    • Terror tries to tell us, we will be judged and hurt those we love. Faith reminds us of how badly we’ve been hurting by neglecting the call on our life and how that serves no one we love.

    So, how do we make a change?

    Be courageous. Expect the terror. Know it’s job is to limit us and understand that faith wants us to fully expand into the purpose we were called to in this life.

    Here’s your Vibrantly Live Challenge:

    What changes do you KNOW need to be made?  Write those down without judgment. Choose the one you think will make the biggest positive impact on your life and the lives of your loved ones. Now, take a moment and reflect on the terror connected to that change. See the terror clearly for what it is. Now, spend some time hearing what faith says to you about that change.

    If you’re ready to take that next step and want some support, I invite you to learn more about our Christian Counseling or Therapy for Women services.