3 Ways to be Happy in Your Relationships
Let’s look at 3 different ways to be happy in the relationships in your life. It’s something all of us want, but it’s not always the easiest thing to achieve. Why is that? I believe it’s due to assumptions we make.
We’re so quick to assume things – a look means “this”, a tone of voice means “that”. But we could be totally off. Unfortunately, because it becomes our perspective of the situation, it becomes our “truth”, when in reality it could be flat out wrong.
3 main assumptions can trip us up:
Assuming someone’s mad at you:
This tends to lead to defensiveness. It’s just the natural reaction to someone getting upset with us. This defensiveness can exacerbate the situation and cause even more harm.
Assuming someone’s disappointed in you:
The difficulty with this assumption is that it puts a lot of pressure on us. This fear of disappointing others forces us to spend a lot of time and energy trying to keep people happy.
Assuming someone’s judging you:
This assumption causes us to wear a pretty “mask” in order to hide who we really are so we’ll be accepted. We then worry about never being able to measure up to that fake perfection we present.
Here’s Your Vibrantly Live Challenge:
Which of these assumptions do you tend to default to most often? Which one causes you the most difficulty when you’re focusing on ways to be happy in your most important relationships? Now that you’re aware of that, pay close attention over this next month to situations when this pops up so you can begin to make different choices.
Want some additional support as you consider your assumptions? We’d love to chat, get to know you better, and see if we can help.