Why should I hire someone to help me? Can’t I just do it on my own?
Our answer to this is a simple one. If you could have done this on your own, wouldn’t you have already done it by now? We both know you would have. Hiring us, doesn’t make you weak. You aren’t a failure because you need support.
Our clients are strong and very capable women. They are super high achievers, and have been most of their lives. That drive to achieve has served them very well during other phases of their life. But it isn’t serving them well in this season. Our bodies were created to need down time. That’s why we sleep! That need to go, go, go and never sit still doesn’t serve us after awhile. The stress adds up and begins to negatively impact.
We KNOW the women we work with, have tried everything they can think of to slow down, enjoy life more and just be content with the here and now. But they’re stuck. That doesn’t make them weak. It just means they don’t have the tools yet to do life differently. That’s what we offer. Those are the tools we had to learn. Those are the tools we’ve been teaching our clients for years.
How quickly can I expect to see a difference?
Obviously this depends on how much time and energy you put into the process. Most of our clients begin noticing significant changes within the first couple of weeks. Let’s be honest, these are things you’ve wanted for a really long time, but had no clue how to go about making them a reality.
I’m so busy. What if I don’t have time to do the work?
Sure you’re busy! That’s part of the problem, isn’t it? You’re SO busy, you’re drained and don’t have the energy to really enjoy all you’ve been blessed with. When will things slow down? When will be a better time for you to work on this? We both know the answer is “Never.”
Now is your time! You’re here, reading this page right now because you’re at a defining moment in your life. Why put that off, one second longer? Look at what these patterns have cost you so far? Your sense of well-being, your health, your productivity at work, your relationships with your kids, intimacy with your husband? And let’s not forget, how much money you’ve spent trying to make yourself feel better on short-term endeavors like a new haircut, that new outfit, or eating out!
What other costs are you going to endure? Now is your time to make this change. Don’t use “I’m busy” as an excuse to continue in this pattern one second longer.
Are you faith-based? What does that mean exactly?
We are faith-based and are active followers of Jesus. Our ultimate goal for all of our clients is found in Romans 12:12, “Be joyful in hope, patient in pain and faithful in prayer.” We will celebrate your successes with you, be present with you in your moments of pain, and faithfully pray for your situation during our work together.
All of the work we do with you is biblically based and founded on Christian principles. But we promise NOT to shove religion down your throat. We’re all at different places in our faith walk and being judgmental doesn’t help anybody. Your faith is seen as a strength, and it will be honored in the work we do.
How do I know it will be worth the money?
If you ever wonder what’s REALLY important to someone, all you need to do is look at her calendar and her checkbook. What we spend time on and what we spend money on, says a lot about us.
How many days of work have you missed due to struggling with the exhaustion? Sure, some of those days were probably paid, but think of the REAL vacation time you COULD have used! Time that could have been spent with your family – having fun, or a quiet day for yourself to relax and enjoy.
What’s it costing you relationally? Are loved ones just getting your leftovers because you’re so tired? Is that causing tension in your marriage or your friendships? How much time and energy are your loved ones eating up, worrying about how you’re doing?
What about your kids? How is this impacting them on a daily basis? Are they not getting a fully engaged mom who actively pours into them because you’re just too tired to “give” anymore? What would it be worth to KNOW you’re being a better mom – not only in how you interact with the kids, but also by what you’re modeling in front of them all the time?!
How much is it worth to you, to finally be living the life you know you were created for? Let go of worries about what everyone thinks and have meaningful relationships with the ones you love?
C’mon – we both know that we blow all kinds of money trying to make ourselves feel better – manicures, highlights, massages, shopping sprees. But in the end does any of that bring long lasting benefit? No! We feel good for a little bit, but then another argument happens, or our kids act like they don’t know us. We sit around feeling useless and wonder “What’s next?” Isn’t it time to vibrantly live?
Do you accept insurance?
We are considered “out of network” with your insurance company. This means our counselors do not work directly with your insurance company. Some insurance companies will reimburse our clients directly for portions of what they pay for our services, however.
We are set up to accept Health Savings Accounts, if you have one of those.
Why are you out of network?
Your confidentiality is our highest priority, therefore we have chosen not to work with insurance companies directly. Here are some specific reasons:
- Insurance companies require providers to provide a diagnosis code in order to bill – even if clients don’t have a specific diagnosis. By choosing not to bill insurance, we protect your privacy by avoiding having to label you with a mental illness.
- Insurance companies require that billing be done through an Electronic Medical Record system. That means the diagnosis given is then permanently in your medical record for other third parties to easily have access to.
- Insurance companies frequently dictate the type and course of treatment based on the diagnosis code. You aren’t a number. You are an individual. You have your own needs. We want to work collaboratively with you to meet your needs, rather than have your journey dictated by some stranger at your insurance company.
What if I can’t afford it?
All too often, we quickly jump to “I can’t afford it” without really thinking things through.
We want to start by shifting your mindset from “I can’t afford it” to “How can I afford it?” Our job is to get you to think in an empowered way about how to move forward, and sometimes that means getting creative about how to afford the guidance you need. While we’re happy to work with clients to help them find a way to pay for a program, we also ask that if you feel you’re ready to work with us that you do some thinking in advance about how you may be able to afford the program.
We know from personal experience. If we truly want something, we find the money to make it happen. Over the past several years, we’ve personally invested tens of thousands on our personal growth. We understand the value of investing in ourselves. Has it required getting very creative and being willing to sacrifice certain things? Sure it has! But, they’ve made us the wives, moms, daughters, friends, and professionals we are today.
I need to talk to my husband about this first. How would you suggest talking to him?
That’s a great question! You absolutely need to talk to him. One of our favorite sayings is “Everything changes when you change.” That means that when you begin doing this work, it will have ripple effects toward everyone in your life. So the important people in your life need to be prepared for things to change (for the better!)
We’ve found that our clients’ husbands are typically very supportive. He’s been worried about you for a while. He sees how tired you are. He sees the lack of joy in your everyday experiences. A lot of the time, he’s tried to help lighten the load for you, but you’ve pushed the offers aside because you feel you “should” be doing everything.
Your husband loves you and he loves his kids. He wants to see you happy and he wants you to be in a good place. He sees the pressure you feel trying to balance everything. When you’re torn between lots of commitments, and feel you aren’t doing any of it well, that directly impacts the amount of attention you can give him. He may not say words directly, but you’ll know when he’s feeling neglected. That’s when there’s tension, irritability and he’s less interested in being helpful.
One of the best suggestions we can offer is to have your husband look through our site so he can understand who we are and the type of work you’re going to be doing with us. And then secondly, be honest with him. If you haven’t been up front about how you’re feeling and then you suddenly talk to him about investing in a program, he won’t understand where that’s coming from. Now is not the time to keep answering his question of “Are you ok?” with “I’m fine”. Or “Is everything ok?” with “Everything’s great!” Tell him how exhausted you are. Tell him the specifics of what you’ve already tried and how working with one of us is the answer you need.